Sunday, February 9, 2014

When Loved Ones Die





The loss of a loved one through death brings a great deal of heartache and pain into our lives.  Until you have lost someone you love so powerfully you will never know the hurt that stays with you for the rest of your life on earth.  Until you have lost someone you love so deeply you will never know the anger you are capable of carrying around inside of you.  The sorrow, the pain, the anger, the confusion, and the frustration will reveal its worth in your life stronger then you can ever imagine.  You will question everything in your life, every turn you turned, every step you took, trying to find reasoning beyond comprehension on the why's this life was removed from your own.  You feel as if nothing in life will every hurt you more then losing that person that brought out feelings and emotions in you that you never knew existed.

Until the next death, until the next person you love is removed from your earthly life.  You will think about how you never knew you could feel so much pain ever again, yet here come all those emotions all over again.  The sadness in your heart, the anger in your mind, the confused and frustrating thoughts as you ponder over all those questions you had with the last death you encountered that never got answered.  Survivors guilt because you know the person you lost had strengths and faith bigger then your own yet you were allowed to stay and they were chosen to go.  You were left to mourn while they were chosen to celebrate death Beyond A Breath Of Life.

While the memories are often warm and loving they are not enough to ward off the anger of the loss.  A tear drops for every memory shared.  No answers are formed to the questions that remain.  The faster you run from the pain the more obstacles you run into, reminders of your loved one lost around every corner you turn. 

A mother, a father, a sister, a brother, a son, a daughter.  A grandparent, an aunt, an uncle, a cousin.  A niece, a nephew, a neighbor, a friend.  Death knocks on each and every door.   Death takes from all religions, all ethnics, all shapes and sizes, all ages.  Death takes from the rich, the poor, the healthy, the sick.  When death comes calling, whether you answer or not, you will be taken.  The best you can hope for is that those you love will be spared and you get to keep them here on earth with you for a bit longer.

You can walk away on a positive note from the pain of death.  Surviving the pain of losing a loved one will make you a stronger person.  It will reveal your strengths and weakness in life and allow you to improve upon them.  Through the death of a loved one you will learn more about yourself then any kind of instruction you get from life itself.  The death of a loved one will provide you with the tools to strengthen your character in life.  It will give you the motivation to build your faith, be a better Christian, be a better you.

When facing the pain of death in the life you live.  When you have lost the very best of the people you have surrounded yourself with.  When you have seen yourself as you have never seen yourself before ... you can choose to mourn a life, or celebrate a life that left to soon.  Celebrating someone's life is a great tribute to how much you loved them when they were breathing the same air you are.  Give yourself time to mourn, time to grieve and upon realizing that the Circle Of Life just turned your world around, celebrate the life that was and the journey your loved one has moved onto. 

Dedicated to: 
 Misfit Brother Charlie (RIP Grandpa Greg) and
Misfit Brother James (RIP Grandpa Larry)


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